{"id":4980,"date":"2021-10-04T15:45:31","date_gmt":"2021-10-04T15:45:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sorgarmidstod.is\/resources-in-grief\/"},"modified":"2022-05-01T20:46:58","modified_gmt":"2022-05-01T20:46:58","slug":"resources-in-grief","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/sorgarmidstod.is\/en\/sadness\/good-advice\/resources-in-grief\/","title":{"rendered":"Resources in grief"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Grief takes time and can be very painful, but there are things that can help us feel better. We call them “resources” and they are of various kinds. Everyone needs to find their own way, because the same thing does not suit everyone. We are different, our losses and circumstances are different.<\/p>\n

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If you have a child\/children that you don\u2019t have the energy to take good care of, don\u2019t be ashamed of it. Remember that children have a statutory right to support from the health care center (Act no. 50\/2019). Get help so your child can receive this important support. It will help you too.<\/p>\n

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Here is advice submitted by people who are grieving.<\/p>\n


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1. Seeking help<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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\u00b7 Communicate with other people, relatives, friends, co-workers and others in your inner circle.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Talk about the deceased with a friend or a professional.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Accept help, say “yes, thank you” to those who offer help.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Read\/listen\/watch content about grief, grief reactions, trauma, suicide (if applicable) or about the resources of others<\/span><\/p>

who have lost someone.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Peer conversation, i.e. meeting others who have experienced the same kind of loss, e.g. a widow meets a widow.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Finding a role model, i.e. people who have experienced trauma and gotten through it.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Reminiscing about warm memories of the person who has passed away and exchanging stories with those closest to you.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Exercising faith in a higher power, afterlife, or anything else that strengthens you.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Participating in a peer support group at Sorgarmi\u00f0st\u00f6\u00f0 (loss of spouse, loss of child, loss to suicide, parental loss, etc.).<\/span><\/p>\n

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2.<\/strong> Self-care<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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\u00b7 Good sleep\/rest is vital. You may need the help of sleeping pills or sedatives for a while.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Regular and good nutrition is essential. Get someone to bring you food.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Utilizing nature and outdoor activities provides energy and releases tension. Walks are good, either alone or<\/p>

with others in the lowlands and in the mountains.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to not be able to handle everything.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Getting up, getting dressed, having something to do.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Having a photograph of those we grieve where we can see it.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Talking to the deceased loved one aloud or in your head.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Write an obituary or letter to them and publish or keep it.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Go to the grave\/memorial site, tidy up the site and light a light or plant flowers.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Being thankful for what you have, such as family, friends, health, memories.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Going to different types of yoga, for example yoga nidra or trauma yoga.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Going swimming, there is a sense of healing in water.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Going for a massage, it releases tears\/tension.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Meditating and\/or practicing mindfulness.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Writing a diary. Get release by putting your feelings and emotional state into words.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Allow yourself to cry. Crying relieves tension and you\u2019ll feel better afterwards.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 “Turn on your grief”, choose a time and place that suits you. Listen to music, look at photos and<\/p>\n

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allow the grief to engulf you for a while.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Do good, for example by supporting a good cause or helping others in the same situation.<\/p>\n

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3.<\/strong> Take a break from the grief, take your mind off it and do something completely different<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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\u00b7 Participate in sports activities such as golf, running, cycling, hiking, bootcamp training.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Watch TV\/internet or listen to music.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Use humor\/watch something funny. Allow yourself to laugh. It releases tension and hormones.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Maintaining a routine and having something to keep you occupied, such as caring for plants or pets.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Find release through creativity, for example writing poetry, stories, knitting, painting, making music, playing, singing.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Going to work when you are ready. It helps and then with a suitable employment ratio.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Finding hobbies or projects that you like, such as photography, organize photos, papers, other.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Planning holidays in advance: Have events scheduled such as going to the movies, for a car ride or to a dinner party.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Setting yourself goals, big or small. Focus on getting through the grief.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Stand by yourself and celebrate feelings such as anticipation.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Planning something fun, such as a trip.<\/p>\n

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\u00b7 Daring to start new relationships.<\/p>\n

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